If you are thinking to become a new first time Mom at age 40, think seriously. I am saying that you have to really get ready to meet the challenge of this role.

I had my first baby when I was 40. It was just last year. I would like to share with you my own experience, hoping that you would take some of my thoughts into consideration. If you are one of the women at 40 plus who is willing and according to a doctor is able to have a baby, please do not go away yet. As you continue reading my thoughts, let me remind you that I am just sharing the facts from my own experience. I came up with these 7 thoughts that helped me and I hope will help you.

There are many established mature women who have a lot going on in their lives except one thing... They do not have children. The closer the clock to that critical time of a woman's reproductive ability is, the more pressure a woman that is wishing to have a child experiences.

Thought #1: The more relaxed you are, the more chances you have to get pregnant. This is not only about sex...

This is about your life style as a whole. Do you have a stressful job? Can you quite it? Most of us would say no. In my case, things happened in the way that I quit my stressful job in order to find a new one. My new job was stressful but the surroundings were more suitable for me. In a year or so, I got pregnant. Is it a coincidence? I do not know... I believe that some of it had to do with more pleasant-less stressful conditions that my new job offered. If you cannot quit your job, remember that life is not only about work. We know that it is an important part of our lives but please find something else that you can turn your mind to after you leave your office.

Thought #2: The more relaxed you are, the more chances you have to get pregnant. This is also about sex...

Just relax and enjoy. Yes, you have to try when you are ovulating. Please do not make it just about getting pregnant. It should be about LOVE. Loving children are born from loving parent but also from parents who love each other...

There is a lot of information everywhere on how to enjoy things that should be enjoyable in the first place. You have to learn how to be more relaxed.

Thought #3: Get ready financially. Remember that you live in the country with a shortest maternity leave on the planet.

You have to be very serious regarding financial planing before having a baby. We have heard that in the USA, new moms have the shortest maternity leave than in most countries.

It is a must to have some financial planning if you decide to prolong your maternity leave. It is a must if the question to work or not work arises. Even if you thought during your pregnancy, that you would go back to work at a certain time, things may change when the baby arrives. You may decide to stay home with your baby longer. Believe me, it is very difficult to give away your baby to a child caregiver when YOUR baby is only 6 weeks old. As a mature Mom, you are so responsible that you may not trust your baby to anyone. To avoid extra stress and frustration in case your career situation changes, get ready financially.

Thought #4: When your baby arrives, expect to be away from your comfort zone.

At age 40, you had your freedom of doing what you wanted and going places you wished. When you have a baby, your established routine will be disturbed. So, visit places, meet with your friends, go to movies or travel as long as it allows before the baby arrives.

I, personally, didn't imagine that it would be so-o-o difficult in the beginning. Especially, in the first few months and especially, if you are an extravert, you may have a very difficult time readjusting at your age to your new situation of being isolated from the world that you were so comfortable with. It is very important to acknowledge that your life will never be the same again. Simply, never!

Thought #5: Expect not to attain 100% from yourself at least for several months.

Most of us, new moms at age 40, think that it is a role that we are ready for. We experienced a lot and we have seen it all. You tell yourself: "I will be one the most patient mothers and it will come naturally to me. I am strong and wise, smart and healthy." You may be disappointed but there will be days when you just cannot do it all. Do only what is important at that moment for your baby and yourself. Learn to pace yourself, the world can wait.

Thought # 6: When you think you have reached the end of your rope, find someone to talk to about your feelings and thoughts.

You love your baby very much but some days are so difficult that you doubt yourself. You also know that there is no way to turn things backward and you are the one who brought this beautiful child into the world. Never take it out on your baby. He is learning his role the same as you. Believe me, tomorrow you will do better. When the baby smiles as the sun rises, all the doubts will go away.

Thought #7: You are one of the lucky numbers! Reminding yourself about this fact will help you get through your daily challenges.

You were lucky if you got pregnant and had a baby at age 40. There are so many women out there that couldn't... Looking at your baby and seeing what a master piece you created, what can be more rewarding in life? Nothing can compare with this thought. Remind yourself: I am lucky!